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Abraham and Sarah

By Lawrence K. Ayodele

Abraham’s and Sarah’s family is the progenitor of the Jewish nation. Sarah was Abraham’s half-sister yet God allowed them to marry each other because those who belonged to God’s chosen race at that time were still few. Later, God forbade such a marriage. Abraham and Sarah had their faith tested and they passed before they could be admitted into the hall of faith.

Test of Faith

First, when God told Abraham to leave his country, his relations and his father’s house and go to a land that he would show him, he obeyed promptly. Even though a lot of promises were attached to his call, Abraham had a choice to make. He could choose to either obey God and became a reference point throughout history or disobey and remained in an obscure place and passed away with his period. He was also faced with choosing between the security of what he already had and the uncertainty of travelling under God’s leading to an unknown destination.

Second, God promised Abraham and Sarah a child through whom they would become father and mother of nations. This promise was delayed. In spite of this, they continued to live together in love and peace. Sarah remained loyal and submissive to Abraham and Abraham loved her intimately. At last when all evidences proved otherwise, they had the promised child (Isaac).

Third, their inability to have children did not affect their relationship to people who happened to have contact with them. For example, Lot’s family and their herdsmen lived with them until they parted peacefully.

Fourth, the love of Abraham and Sarah to God was tested after receiving the promise child. Naturally, they could have loved Isaac so much that he would become Sarah’s pet and Abraham’s hope of living. But when God told Abraham to go and offer Isaac for a burnt offering, Abraham obeyed God without resistance from Sarah.

Fifth, Abraham and Sarah passed the test of taking joint decisions. Even though some of their decisions were carnally made, they always reasoned together and took joint decisions.

Abraham’s and Sarah’s Failures

Abraham and Sarah failed in the following areas:

  • Under fearful circumstances they agreed to distort the truth. Twice they both agreed to deny that they were husband and wife.
  • They had trouble to continue believing God’s promises when evidences were pointing to the contrary. When Sarah considered her ageing condition and that of Abraham, she succumbed to the custom of the heathen around them. She gave her maid, Hagar to Abraham so that she could get a child through her. This later caused a lot of distresses in the family. Though restitution was finally undertaken, their failure affects the whole history up till today.

Lessons From Their Family 

We can learn the following lessons from their failure.

  • Husbands and wives must remain together no matter the situation they are passing through. 
  • Barrenness is never a ground to divorce a woman or picking another wife so as to raise children. It should not cause hatred or confusion. Staying and praying together under this condition always move God to open the closed womb and the child that comes is always great. Examples are Isaac, Joseph, Samuel and John the Baptist. 
  • When husbands and wives notice their failures, they must come together and prayerfully make restitution that will please God. 
  • The promises of God for each family will never fail. Even though they may be delayed and our circumstances may change, God is always faithful to his promises. 
  • God’s love must be first in our hearts. We should not love our spouse, children, works or anything more than God. Whatever God demands from us, we must willingly and cheerfully give to Him. 
  • Husbands and wives must always seek the face and approval of God in all their decisions. When there is an advice from one’s spouse, the mind of God must be sought whether the advice conforms to His will for the family or not. When God speaks to us concerning such an advice, we must submit to the will of God. Abraham was not happy to send Hagar and Ishmael away but when God told him to do so, he obeyed God without delay.


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