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God did not create man to be
alone. Eve was created
to be an helper for Adam (Genesis 2:18). A man that finds his own wife
surely
receive the favour of God. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the LORD" (Proverbs 18:22). It should be understood that
fear
of possible problems in marriage should not close Christians’ hearts to
marriage. Marriage serves the purpose of testing Christians spiritual
maturity .
Factors
That Contribute to Marriage Failure
Lack of Proper Knowledge
About Marriage.
Many people see marriage as
something that should
be thought of only when one is preparing for marriage. Some parents do
not know
what it takes to have a successful marriage. Their marriages are full of
crises. Hence, they are teaching their children by their examples how
they can
fail in marriage.
On the other hand, the
parents with reasonably
knowledge on marriage see it as a taboo to teach their children at the
right
time. By the time they want to teach their children, it will be too late
because the children could have made their choice. Most of these choices
are
wrong because they are made out of ignorance.
Also, some Ministers
concentrate on spiritual
matters only while some of their youths are ignorance of fundamental
knowledge
on marriage. Of course, some minister's homes are hell on earth while
some
ministers have perverted ideas on marriage. Those that are under such
ministers
may not make right choices in marriage.
The only way out is to teach
the youth early enough
to know how sacred and honourable marriage is and how to make a right
choice
(Deuteronomy 6:6,7).
Entering into Marriage
Without Being Fit For it
Marriage is a responsibility
on the part of both
husband and wife. One must be mentally, psychologically, spiritually and
financially fit before he or she can fully discharge his or her
responsibilities in marriage. Good education, good accommodation, wisdom
to
build a happy and stable home, spiritual maturity and readiness to pay
the
price of a successful marriage among other things are the virtues that
make a
man or woman fit for marriage.
A man or woman that enters
into marriage without
accepting the accompany responsibilities can never succeed in his or her
marriage. I will like to stress that marriage is not for babes but the
matured
people.
It needs to be stressed here
that when one of the
parties in marriage is not fit, it places more burden on the one that is
fit to
keep the marriage going smoothly. But when the two parties in a marriage
are
not fit, it takes special miracles for the marriage not to collapse.
When a
Medical Doctor without the knowledge of piloting a plane attempts to
pilot a
plane, will the plane take off and land safely? Think on that!
Lack of Love
Love is the fuel that keeps
the wheel of marriage
rolling. A marriage without love may survive but it cannot keep going on
for a
long time. With a slight obstacle or little problem, it will be
grounded.
Marriage love is sacrificial,
selfless and natural.
It is not based on physical things, Ephesians 5:25. Anyone that enters
into
marriage on the basis of love that stands on physical and unstable
things will
fail, Ecclesiastes 2:17.
Emotional Attachment to One's
Parents
The clear-cut injunction
given to husbands and
wives is that they must leave their fathers and mothers and cleave to
each
other (Genesis 2:24). Anyone who is too much attached to his or parents
may
found it difficult to be satisfied with his or her spouse. This creates
an
opportunity for the parents to unduly interfere with the marriage. This
will
definitely cause problems in the marriage. Men and women that do not
have mind
of their own to take decision and rule their families are not supposed
to
marry.
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