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The following
factors work against a
successful courtship:
1. Indoctrination: Some
ministers have
successfully convinced the members of their denominations that they
cannot
marry a person outside their denominations. This is against the
principle of
one Lord one body. Also, some churches have placed undue restrictions on
those
in courtship. They will restrain them from having opportunity to meet
and talk
together on issues. They are not allowed to ascertain each other’s
family
background, aspiration and some other critical issues. This is the major
reason
why most Christians are only enduring their marriages whereas they are
supposed
to enjoy them.
2. Pressure to get married:
Some people
rushed to marriage because of the following reasons: hostility in the
home,
competing with friends and juniors, old age, unexpected pregnancy, fear
of
being jilted, pressure from parents, seeking the way to avoid
fornication and
achievement. All the above are not good reasons to rush into marriage.
Whoever
rushes into marriage based on any of the above factors may live a life
of sorrow.
3. Lack of good
counselling.
4. Inducement of partner
with money, gifts,
sex, job etc. This leads to building marriage on wrong foundation.
5. Lack of salvation
experience: A natural
without a salvation experience person cannot get clear leading of God on
God’s
will for him/her. He/She cannot undertake sin-free courtship. In fact,
he/she
has not gotten the virtues that can pave way for a meaningful
courtship.
6. Inability to seek the
face of God for a
suitable partner.
7. Failure to accept God’s
choice because of
certain disabilities, ailments or weaknesses.
8. Choosing a partner based
on sentimental
reasons.
9. Hypocrisy or lack of
openness.
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